I don’t know about anybody else, but my days seem to be getting shorter and my “to-do” lists are getting longer. Each day I find myself trying to cram more and more things on to that list, and unfortunately it makes me feel like I’m not getting a lot done. Or I should say, I’m not getting enough done. Since I happen to be of the female persuasion I have this erroneous misconception that I’m supposed to be able to do it all –you know –that SUPERWOMAN complex most of us have. So, since that’s not possible I end up feeling like I have failed. Wow, that is a lot to live up to, and I know there are a lot of us who battle with this issue every day!
A couple of weeks ago I read something that is helping me deal with this warped “all or nothing” thinking. In this article, the author was addressing the endless to do list that we all have, and he said something that made me feel better. He said, “we’re never going to complete all the tasks on our ‘to do’ list.” But he didn’t stop there. He indicated that the key is to identify two to three priority tasks every day, and work on completing those things. I know that sounds simple, but most of the solutions to life’s problems are simple – we just tend to complicate them. At least I do. For the first few days that made me feel good to know I’m not going to always complete everything on my list. Now I realize I have to remind myself of that daily. On any given day all I can do is the best I can and trust that the rest will be okay. When we put ourselves in situations where we set ourselves up to fail because of our unrealistic expectations it begins to render us useless. You can easily start to feel like, why bother.
What I’m learning is that whatever I have to offer on any given day is enough. Some days will be better than others – some days I’ll do more than I expected, and others I will do less. In the end it all balances out. In the meantime I have to enjoy each day and appreciate my efforts. The constant feeling of I didn’t do enough is draining and it begins to rob you of the joy for life’s greatest moments. I don’t want to live that way, so I vow to give myself credit for what I can contribute on each day and cut myself some slack for those things I can’t do. After all, my faith and my life are built on the belief that’s it all going to work out in the end and for my good! If I truly believe that, then I have to live my life accordingly and refuse to stress out over stuff that in the grand scheme of things really isn’t important.
Peace, Love & Fitness!